Totally Married (general)

Elizabeth and Andy share their joy in their new house regarding things like doors on rooms and a fridge ready with... wait for it... CRUSHED ICE!!! Then they give their unqualified advice to listener questions about how to deal with friends who are only about their children and the big question about whether or not to have kids in tandem with that, what to do when you see someone's kid pee in public without their knowing, how to respond to people's obnoxious comments regarding having an only child, and what to do about a roommate/trash bag who doesn't wash their hands after the latrine?! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy explain the great and the not so great of what caused their absence last week, and then Elizabeth discovers that her rage is being misdirected at her sweet, well meaning husband! Before entering QUITE a political pocket, they give their unqualified advice to listener questions about how to dodge social events with a friend's ex, whether or not to tell another woman that her now boyfriend cheated on you with her, if one is supposed to scrub their social media of an ex's presence after a breakfup, and if it's kosher to move other people's laundry from the dryer when you're waiting your turn? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss the merits of podcasting - to continue or not to continue? Plus her new phone, and of course some more discussion about their future documentary on pubic hair. Then they give their unqualified advice to listener questions about how to navigate interviewing family for a blog that would explore tense family dynamics, what to do about a husband who is "rockin' the bed" on his own after lights out, whether or not to give a boyfriend another chance who isn't stepping up for your kids, how to handle a mother in law and husband who won't compromise in their treatment of each other, what to do about family reactions to the choice to leave a toxic sister out of your wedding invites, and lastly how to continue writing with creative freedom when your blog has caused a boundary-less mother in law to react negatively? Enjoy!

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This episode begins with a riveting segment called what are Elizabeth and Andy's neighbors doing in real time? Then they discuss another nail biter - whether or not wipes are flushable - before giving their extremely unqualified advice to listener questions about how to navigate on online relationship when you don't have much experience, how to proceed having political discussions with those you don't agree with, whether or not to maintain a relationship with a father figure who is toxic, how to be supportive of a partner who suffers from depression while still having a voice in the relationship, and whether or not to move on from an old flame who still is in a limbo/friend zone? Enjoy!

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277 - Micky D's And Election Recap!

Andy gives a YUGE shout out to MC Donalds, (don't go there!) before he and Elizabeth dive right on in to more election talk. Then they give their unqualified advice to listener questions about what to do about the crazy amount of Christmas gifts required for family when you are on a budget, how to react when you hear someone saying hurtful about people in public, and how to navigate Christmas after a family political blowup, how to handle casual dating when you're not in it for a relationship?

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206 - Big News!!

Elizabeth and Andy start this episode off by sharing their mega, big earth-shattering news! Then they dive into giving their unqualified advice to so many great listener questions about how to stave off the engagement pressure in a young couple, what to plan for in moving to a new city on the fly, how to be supportive of a spouse who is teaching a subject you want to know more about, what, if any boundaries need to be in place with a lesbian friend, how to end a toxic friendship, is anyone hiring in LA, and lastly, how to react to an ex husband, baby daddy who is ridiculously immature and hurtful? Enjoy!

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Whoa nelly! Elizabeth and Andy discuss the heated conversation inspired by episode 135 regarding racism as well as Andy's potentially new diagnosis before answering listener questions about thank you note etiquette in friendships and what to do when that goes awry, whether or not Elizabeth and Andy took the babymoon they'd discussed, how to deal with feelings of betrayal when a parent is unfaithful to your other parent, and how to enjoy your big wedding day without letting it consume your life and happiness leading up to it. Enjoy!

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Happy Anniversary! It's been 6 years of this wild ride called marriage so naturally Elizabeth and Andy discuss balls (of the felt variety), shoplifters, and death. Then they answer listener questions about racist costumes, where to live in LA, how to humor a funny guy boss, whether to continue a friendship that feels null and void, what's the best place to start if you want to rescue a dog (yay!) whether or not to buy a baby gift for a porn star you've been enjoying (love this one!) and lastly, our first ever question about a conflict - we hear from both sides of the story and discuss! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss his recent misunderstood behavior that doesn't shine him in the best light before answering listener questions about dealing with a difficult sister in law when traveling, financial responsibility with dog ownership, what to do about an invitation to a disastrous wedding, how to move on from a devastating break up and remain a good friend to those who are in happy relationships, what to do about a friendship that has gone south when you are owed money, and lastly, how do Elizabeth and Andy navigate meals when they have such different tastes/diets? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss his recent attempt to reconcile what's going on in photos of him and whether or not he is as good looking as he thinks he is (he is, says Elizabeth!) plus answers to listener questions about finding human contact and attention with someone when you aren't looking for a serious relationship and are shy by nature, how to support a great boss who is newly pregnant, what to do for a husband who is incapable of using public restrooms, how to navigate getting rid of unwanted roommates who are also your friends, and how to move on from the hope of a relationship that never panned out the way it was supposed to? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss why she embarrassed him in their class as well as Andy's recent foray into the world of virtual assistants before they answer listener questions about what's "Totally" about Los Angeles, how to be there for a friend who clearly has major reservations about her relationship, what to do about those old "circus friends" of yours when your life has taken a different path, and lastly, do men only love bitches? What's up with that? Enjoy!

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It's the first hour long episode of Totally Married! Elizabeth and Andy check in about how her NY's resolutions have already taken a hit, as well as discuss other insecurities before giving their unqualified advice to listener questions about whether or not to suggest to a long time friend/hook up buddy to take things to the next level, what to do when your boyfriend shows signs of an alcohol problem, and how to deal with a spouse who showed up empty handed at Christmas. Enjoy!

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Happy New Year Laimeweds! Andy and Elizabeth discuss their New Year's resolutions as well as drop a big FYI bomb - they are drinking their own kool aid! (and it tastes great!) Plus listener questions about dating when you're introverted, how to connect with your partner when there seems to be little communication, and lastly and particularly powerful (mwah ha ha) question about flatulence! Wishing you all a fantastic start to 2014 -  Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their Christmas holiday as well as how they discovered that the one thing they definitely have in common is a former love for the bands Prodigy and Kid Rock! Then they answer listener questions about supporting a mom who has a hoarder sister, what to do when you are ready to get married and settled down to a perpetual peter pan, how to be supportive for a partner when you don't agree with his perspective, and lastly, what to do when the man you love and have been married to for seven years wants a divorce. Enjoy!

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Merry Christmas Laimeweds! We discuss our Christmas morning plans as well as well as some under-the-covers plans (mwah ha ha) before diving into answering listener questions about jealousy over work friends, thinking of loved ones who have passed away during the holidays, what to do when your boyfriend(s) don't seem to want to go "downtown", and how to navigate very close opposite sex friendships. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their vastly different reactions to their recent Christmas card snafu as well as get into an in depth discussion about birth choices (more on that topic on Totally Mommy dropping in January!) Then they answer listener questions about high school crushes on friends, how to handle a brother who is marrying someone barely legal and is a general nightmare, how to explain to your future in laws why your brother is rolling in dough when it involved the growing of some very special "herbs", and lastly, should you take a standup comedy class for the fun of it? Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp127.mp3
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Elizabeth and Andy check in about their vastly different Christmas prep before answering listener questions about putting up boundaries with roommates, getting help with an out of sorts dog that isn't even your own, what to do if you're struggling with binge eating, how to honor a loved one who has passed away, how to be supportive to someone when you can't relate to what they are going through, and what to do about work when you're just not feeling it where you are? Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp126.mp3
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Elizabeth and Andy discuss the lessons she learned about making assumptions and how the recent dog conundrum played out. Then, they answer listener questions about a guy who wants to give good advice to his friend after a breakup, what a good Christmas gift might be for the guy who has everything, what to do when your husband promised to move in the future but won't budge now that the time has arrived, and lastly a very interesting question about how to navigate your husband's anxiety disorder when it directly impacts your ability to pursue your dreams. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss what's taking place in their house that is sending Elizabeth into a bit of a tailspin as well as ask the listeners for help on a precarious dog situation. Then they answer listener questions about how to be a compassionate co-worker when your colleague is going through hell, what to do when your boyfriend won't stop talking to a girl who is in love with him, how to navigate the holiday drinking when you are secretly pregnant, how to throw a fun wedding and reception on a budget, how to include your newly-mothered best friend in your birthday festivities and lastly, why does talking on the phone suck so bad and MUST you always call to ask someone out on a date?! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth shares her food memory to an un-impressed Andy before they dive into listener questions about handling a stressful visit to your dysfunctional family over the holidays, choosing between a nice guy boyfriend and the ex who wants back in, how Andy's parents feel about being grandparents from so far away, and being a 25 year old virgin who is afraid of being perpetually single. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy (attempt to!) explore the 14 habits of highly miserable people before answering listener questions about a homophobic friend, how to find someone to casually date in a new city when you're not looking for something serious but are looking for some seriously good sex :) and lastly, how much is an appropriate amount to spend on an engagement ring? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth makes a big announcement about the podcast! Then she and Andy discuss their recent visit to St. Louis before answering listener questions about moving/compromising when in a long distance relationship, what to do when you're starting a new relationship but "the one that got away" comes crawling back, and how do we feel about our listeners feeling like they know us? Enjoy!

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Happy Thanksgiving Laimeweds!! Elizabeth and Andy discuss gratitude, St. Louis style pizza (who knew?!) versus Chicago versus New York, choosing to do something you love for a living versus something that pays the bills, how to handle a disintegrating relationship with a step father when your mother is sick, and what is the best way to network for a new job in a new city when you don't know anyone there? Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp120.mp3
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E and A discuss the possibility of communication from the beyond thru the billion dollar conglomerate that is Facebook before answering listener questions on whether or not to compromise on a New Years Eve trip, what to do when boyfriend/girlfriend both have twin beds, how to navigate a best friend pulling away, and what to do in a marriage when things look bleak and there's little hope for change. Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp119.mp3
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E and A discuss a friend's recent choking scare which leads to all sorts of fun discussion about horrible things happening! Then they give their unqualified answers to listener questions about having in laws wear out their welcome and how to address that with your spouse, how to make new couple friends, and a VM about what to do when your best friend is dating someone who is no beuno. Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp118.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:35am PST

Elizabeth and Andy check in after a day long Motherhood retreat for Elizabeth and a bad start to the day for Andy that involved Ruby jumping on his balls. Then they give their unqualified advice to listener questions about how to help a partner who has crippling fear of flying, what to do when your brother in law is portraying bizarre bathroom behavior during family trips, how to handle a father's infidelity, and what to do when you and your spouse disagree on where to live. Enjoy!

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After a quick check in at the studio, Elizabeth and Andy address some hilarious follow ups before answering listener questions about letting your girlfriend know you think she's super beautiful even if she doesn't believe it, how to create more meaningful female friendships when a girl is more comfortable around men, how to handle the super frustrating trying-to-get-pregnant "two week wait" and lastly, how to deal with a friend who has cut ties due to your good news. Enjoy!

Direct download: TotallyMarriedEp116.mp3
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Elizabeth and Andy discuss an article that illustrates why Andy might not be wired for fatherhood (uh oh!) before diving into giving their unqualified advice/answers to listener questions about setting boundaries with an annoying roommate, how much sex is normal in a relationship, what to do about a friend who creates drama everywhere he goes, and how to develop more meaningful friendships that will meet you halfway instead of you putting in all the effort? Enjoy!

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E and A stumble into some female versus male fantasy talk before discussing listener questions about not wanting to leave your baby with your mother in law, how to deal with in laws that are excluding and hurtful, how to avoid a disaster at a wedding when the families are completely different and there are a few live wires, and lastly is a long term friendship worth the investment because of the length of time even if you've grown apart and have differing views? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy describe how they scared the bejeezus out of each other today as well as why Andy is having terrible fears of killing their child before they dive into some interesting questions about quitting smoking, whether or not crushes are okay outside of a relationship (and if so, how to deal with them,) what to ask of a marital counselor when your partner won't go with you, how to cope with a husband and best friend who hate each other's guts, and lastly: What's a girl to do when she wants more of the booty call?! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their former ghost, Andy's recent career magical moment, as well as why they are not doing Jack-O-Lanterns this year. Also, they announce the name of their baby girl! (not really… or really?) Then they answer listener questions about how to keep new adopted dogs from marking in the house, what home remedies to implement when the flu hits, whether or not friends should help you with your online dating profile, how to navigate traveling with parents and boyfriends and dealing with uncomfortable room situations, how to avoid an ex coworker/friendship stalker, and lastly, what to do when there's no magic happening in the bedroom! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth discusses her recent, sudden bout of pregnancy body image issues before she and Andy answer listener questions about texting etiquette, crazy sister-in-law problems, long distance relationships, and having overnight guests when space is limited! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy check in after a few days of feeling a little untethered, then they give their unqualified advice on listener questions about leaving a career for family, pursuing a crush when they are a best friend to your best friend, what sort of dog to adopt to overcome a fear, and lastly, how to navigate a changing friendship as the parties are entering different life stages. Enjoy!

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E and A discuss how today's texting and social media has created a disconnect that is STILL not okay when it comes to breaking up. Also, we share one of the best voicemails ever recorded, before answering listener questions about communicating in marriage when feelings are off limits, how to navigate making a baby when your partner is having a hard time performing, and lastly, an interesting question on one of our greatest hits topics - pubic hair! Enjoy!

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Andy makes a MAJOR (not really:) announcement before he and Elizabeth answer listener questions about how to handle it when your spouse won't participate in dreaming of the future with you, whether to maintain a friendship that isn't giving back, what to do when your partner won't go downtown (if you know what we mean!), whether to broach the subject of getting fertility testing early on, and lastly what's a girl to do when her partner of three years has yet to say those three little words?! Enjoy!

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Not for the faint of heart, this episode gets into some TMI territory with a story from E's recent midwife appt, plus E and A answer listener questions about finding some income working part time from home, how to break into voiceover work, what to do when your spouse thinks YOU have it so good, and lastly, how to set some boundaries with a less than considerate mother in law. Enjoy!

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E and A discuss materialism and consumerism versus just wanting to look cool, man! Plus listener questions about how to deal with a partner who is depressed but won't seek treatment, whether or not to give pregnancy another try after a traumatic loss and a ticking clock, how to get closure after a close friend simply stops responding, and how to end a friendship when one person has outgrown the other. Enjoy!

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E and A discuss a recent study/video that shows the strong link between happiness and expressing gratitude before diving into listener questions about losing one's faith in a religion when the marriage was founded in that faith, bad tattoos, and a heartbreaking question about how to cope with a daughter who is suffering from an eating disorder - Laimeweds, please leave any much appreciated advice in the comments below. Enjoy!

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104 - Massage Mistake!

Elizabeth details her recent foray into mall massage madness and how it went wrong. Then she and Andy answer listener questions about our own nicknames, how to overcome a creative roadblock, how to deal with having put the I Love You out there and now waiting for it in return, how to find and fit in some cheap and romantic dates when time is tight, and lastly, what to do decorating-wise with perpetually blank walls? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss his love for eateries that "look shitty" as well as Elizabeth's new found appreciation for a good deal before answering listener questions about whether or not to stay in a relationship after two strikes, how to be there for your spouse when you are dealing with a terrible loss together, how last names work in gay marriage, and how to navigate a sticky situation with a mother in law and her desire to move in, eeep! Enjoy!

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E and A discuss how corporations are able to "Target" us silly little consumers before discussing listener questions about differences in age in a relationship, whether or not it's a good idea to stay in a relationship because of the kids, how to get better at communicating in conflict with your partner, and whether or not it's worth the worry about marrying someone who has only been intimate with one person. Enjoy!

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In this pre-recorded episode due to travel, Elizabeth and Andy dive right into listener questions about a husband who's little white lies about his ahem, habits,  are starting to take their toll, whether or not to tell a good friend that they are clearly not ready for the responsibility of dog ownership, what to do when one feels like they are "outgrowing" their marriage, and lastly, how to cope emotionally with becoming a nurturing mother by day but a freak of the week in bed by night :) Enjoy!

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HOLY SMOKES, LAIMEWEDS!! We made it! We are so thrilled to have come this far and owe everything to you~ Tune into today for a eery big announcement that we are thrilled to share with you. Love you all!

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One away from our big 100th episode extravaganza! Today, we discuss our dream birthday parties if there were no restrictions, then we answer listener questions about dudes ending friendships, if it's okay for a married couple to not be each other's best friend, how to gently tell a friend that she's making poor dating choices, how to handle having the "sex talk" with a stepson when his dad isn't game, and how to handle a negative, complaining co-worker who is wearing on your last nerve! Enjoy!

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After a whirlwind night of soundchecking and rock n rolling, Elizabeth and Andy attempt to check in for a late night podcast session, then they answer listener questions about infidelity for a soon-to-be-wed, how to work through a communication/trust breach with a partner who doesn't see it that way, and lastly, how to handle going on a job hunt when pregnant. Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth discuss what athletic/performance endeavors gets each other going as well as Andy's upcoming Meg Myers show with the Pixies (!!) before diving into some sad listener questions about teen drug dependence, putting a beloved dog to sleep and how to break the news to a child. Also, a question about guys' obsession with anal sex, how to deal with a partner who doesn't have the same physical affection boundaries as yourself and what to do in a relationship that is turning serious for you but perhaps not for the other person? Enjoy!

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:30pm PST

Sometimes in a podcast about marriage, we stumble upon things about ourselves that we've not shared with our partner. And sometimes those things are extremely weird, extremely personal and also true! In today's episode, Elizabeth does just that before she and Andy answer listener questions about whether or not to little white lie about how you conceived a child, what to do when you don't want to donate your artistic skills to a wedding you're not a fan of, and lastly - an old standby: to divorce or not to divorce when things have hit the skids? Enjoy!

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Andy pitches his million dollar movie idea to Elizabeth, who has three guesses on the title! Then they answer listener questions about when/how/if to reveal to a partner that you are a virgin, how to navigate a new relationship where there's a weight/health/fitness issue already in place, whether or not to take on a new last name when getting married, whether hanging onto friends after a divorce is worth it if they aren't investing back, and lastly, kids in entertainment? Is that a good idea and if so, how do you know if your kids have what it takes? Enjoy!

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Andy tells a very in depth story about his recent potty escapades before he and E answer listener questions about how to seek out therapy when your family doesn't support it, how to navigate keeping sex sexy when you're trying to conceive, whether or not it's a good idea for a gal to go to a bar alone to meet people, how a dude can be supportive to his dude friend who is suffering a broken heart, and whether or not to tell a sibling that they are making a huge mistake by getting married to a guy who is not the right fit. Enjoy!

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First off, Andy and Elizabeth discuss the massive follow up to last episodes discussion regarding division of household labor in their own relationship and let you know what sort of compromises they came to - whew! Then they dive into listener questions about how to build distance and boundaries in a friendship with a co-worker, how to test the waters with a friend whom you'd like to be more than a friend (but not at the sake of the friendship!),  whether or not it's worth it to go to a more expensive "dream" college or stick with a practical state school, how to move on from a relationship that ended with no closure whatsoever, and lastly.... Are boob stares kosher? If so, how to? Enjoy!

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Y'all. Marriage isn't always roses. And we are married, so.... Shit gets real in this episode. Then Andy and Elizabeth answer listener questions about different work ethics within a relationship, how to handle a rambunctious puppy, and what to do when your husband's sex drive has gone sayonara. Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth discuss recent bizarre behavior witnessed at a local eatery as well as why a potentially successful tryst of Andy's was cut short back in the day. Then they answer listener questions about how to handle receiving a gift that is just too much, whether or not to try to get pregnant when your other health ducks aren't in a row, where to move when you are sick of seasons and rednecks, and how to handle a husband who can't remember to do anything asked of him and also has some potential insecurity issues. Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth embark on some serious virgin territory in today's episode - they discuss their "first times" as well as what the appropriate age and experience is, in their unqualified opinions. They also discuss moving on from a crush, road rage, and guns! Naturally! Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth discuss ways to spice up their routine before addressing follow ups to older episodes. Then they answer listener questions about how to deal with immature sister in laws, whether to cut the chord on a marriage after a challenging separation, how to be a supportive friend to the singleton in the group, and lastly, what are the bucket list to-do items for someone before turning thirty? Enjoy!

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Andy is trying out a new thing: Coffee! E and A talk coffee and lots of it and then dive into other things they'd like to fix about each other before giving their unqualified advice to listener questions about dating someone who suffers from hypochondria, how to move beyond a betrayal in a relationship, and how to tell if a personality annoyance is just that - an annoyance - or is it a deal breaker? Enjoy!

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This one's a doozy! After discussing the sadness of marriages from a few posts in the fertility/pregnancy forums, Andy and Elizabeth answer listener questions about grappling with feelings of discrimination after a bad experience, how to convince your husband to adopt, and lastly, whether it's worth it to find a new therapist when the one you have isn't quite cutting it. This last listener question then devolves into a session of Elizabeth and Andy creating a new psychiatric fantasy for himself! Enjoy!

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E and A check in after a long day that involved an annoying but potentially meaningful interaction at the post office for Elizabeth and recording his guitar-hero shredding for Andy, NBD.  Then they move onto listener questions about whether or not to adopt a pup to help fill a void, how to request a little more romance from a run down husband, and how to handle letting people know that you are struggling and could use some support. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy have both taken personality tests on humanmetrics.com - they discuss the results and see how different their personalities really are! Then they dive into listener questions about how to deal with an incredibly insensitive Sister in Law, how to navigate dating in your forties in a small town, and lastly a question about Andy's "drinking days" and how he's been able to move on from them. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy talk through some wacky but true sex laws - did you know that in MA, a woman cannot be on top?! Then they dive into listener questions about potential jobs in the field of language, how to make each other feel extra special and loved after marriage, whether it's okay to ask for cash instead of registering for wedding gifts, and lastly, how to handle a boyfriend who is jealous of your social life but seems to have no motivation to cultivate one of his own. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy dive right into the incredible feedback/response from episode #81's question about choosing not to have kids and how to deal with the pressure/judgment from others. Who knew this was such a h0tbutton topic?! Then they discuss listener questions about whether to follow through with a marriage when you're still dating and interested in other people, whether or not to tell a white lie about knowing a special surprise your honey has planned, how to handle starting out in the real world, post college, and how to handle the guest list for a destination wedding - extended family or not? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy play the fun game: "What I'd miss most if you died" Then they answer listener questions about dealing with annoying friends who think they're parenting style is better, when in a relationship one should share their struggle with depression, how to get immersed in the world of podcasting and build listeners, and lastly - a question posed to all our gay laimewads/weds out there: when should a father tell his young son that it's okay to be gay? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their recent and wonderful podcast-related golden nugget before diving into listener questions about whether or not to share your "number" if it's higher than your partner might be comfortable with, whether choosing to not have kids makes you a bad person, how to deal with a sister who can't get her shit together and lastly, how to cope with wanting kids when your partner's been down that path already? Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth reveal their "I love you" numbers to each other before discussing the best gift Elizabeth's ever received. Then they answer listener questions about living at home in your twenties, how to balance two ambitious spouses pursuing demanding careers, whether to risk losing a friendship by sharing your feelings, and two of our fave topics in marriage: religion and sexuality! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth gives Andy a shout out for his latest husband hero moment before they discuss listener questions about dating profile user names, how to manage the "i love yous" in a newly serious relationship, how to navigate adopting a dog when a baby is on the scene, whether moving to a music hub is the right choice for an engineer, how to move on after a breakup, and lastly, is not having tons of friends normal/okay? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy are fresh off their trip to Boise, Idaho! The discuss white water rafting, Elizabeth's re-ignited fear of flying and then answer listener questions about online/offline dating, to cheat or not to cheat, whether to get out there in the online dating world after being widowed, and what to do when your best friend's tongue is consistently down her boyfriend's throat. in public. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth explains why the gym just ain't cutting it and makes an announcement regarding her future physical endeavors before she and Andy dive into not one but TWO voicemails as well as answer listener questions about how to handle jealousy between Mom and Mom-in-law, whether or not it's weird to be proud of someone for graduating highschool, and if it's a good idea to reach out to an ex friend for closure a year after the falling out. Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth check in after a whirlwind three days that have resulted in some of Andy's professional endeavors coming into new focus. Then they answer listener questions about making adult friends, adoption versus making human babies, the music biznass, and how to find a compatible partner. Lastly, Elizabeth gets all self conscious about this episode for some reason! Enjoy!

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All hail the Volvo! Elizabeth and Andy discuss the new love of their lives as well as answer listener questions about Facebook update etiquette in relationships, how to navigate raising kids in a veggie/non veggie household, whether or not to continue a crush that requires booze, and how to handle a spouse who's social behavior is vastly different from your own. Enjoy!

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E and A discuss the recent "wild night" they had (for them) before diving into listener questions about when people differ on their religious beliefs in a relationship, how to support a loved one after a traumatic change to their physique, how to compromise on both the quantity and quality of sex in a relationship, and some really important info regarding our favorite characters from The Wire. Omar Back. Enjoy!

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Andy made a questionable personal hygiene choice and shares what the fallout has been, as well as a discussion about negativity before answering listener questions about dealing with grief in a couple, fighting the engagement blues, whether or not to be honest about your "number", how to deflect negativity, and what to do when your partner's relationship with someone else doesn't feel quite right. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy share tales of "quitting" things - the bank, the gym. Then they dive into listener questions about coming out to your parents, how to help a family member who has cut themselves out of the family, how to make friends with younger people at school/work, whether or not to stay in a difficult long distance relationship, to religion or not to religion with kids, and many more. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss this crazy whirlwind of a weekend, including a favorite moment for Elizabeth inspired by "Good Will Hunting". Then, they answer listener questions about dealing with difficult coworkers, how to cope with loss, how to tell a partner about your STD, how to get started pursuing acting, whether or not to take anti-depressants, and lastly, (more than) a few words on puppy mills. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss not one but TWO excellent follow ups to the casual encounters question as well as address listener questions about obnoxious sister-in-laws, working behind the scenes in entertainment, a music question for Andy and what to do when the dog of the house is guarding the house from you. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth discusses her joy over a potential new car before she and Andy answer listener questions about whether people can tell when someone is a functioning alcoholic, what to do when your good friend goes creepy, how to move on with your life in spite of an overbearing mother, and how to proceed if you want to break into the music business! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy give a brief update on Ruby - she's on the mend after surgery, yay! Then they discuss listener follow ups including one that involves THE WORST way we've ever heard of someone finding out they've been cheated on, as well as answer listener questions about inexperience in your twenties, if friends of spouses are off limits in an open relationship, how to be there for a friend and yourself after a traumatic event, and lastly, some good ole fashioned maid of honor drama!  Enjoy!

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Oh no! Ruby isn't feeling too well which is bumming her parents out on this fine holiday, but they soldier on and answer listener questions about moving away from NYC, how to handle friendship breakups, how to let go of people not liking you, and an Andy-specific question about lyric writing contents - yay or nay? Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their endeavors to get fit before diving into listener questions about how to convince a sibling to come out to your parents, whether to pursue a crush that lives in a different city, and what to do when you suspect dad is cheating on mom. enjoy!

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They're back from vacation and ready to roll, discussing their recent discussion about the pull out method as well as answering listener questions about Mother's day when you are mother-less, feeling out whether marriage is on the horizon, whether or not women and men can be friends without sexual tension, and a particularly stumping question about continuing to date someone when the sexual spark just isn't there. Enjoy!

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It's Elizabeth and Andy's second podcast from the paradise that is Cayucos! They discuss how Andy was "spotted" on the tour of Hearst Castle as well as what gave Elizabeth a moment of utter bliss. Then they dive into listener questions about crate training a new pup, handling the topic of depression with family members, how to spice up a ho-hum sex life, how to inject a little light-hearted fun into a stressful marriage, and lastly, HICKIES!! Enjoy!

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E and A are on vacay! Podcasting from The Cass House Inn in Cayucos, CA, they discuss their hilarious experience in a tourist attraction before answering listener questions about taking an old relationship back on, how to deal with highschool relationships, and how to be supportive when a friend is making a potentially terribly bad relationship decision.

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This episode launches with Elizabeth's latest good vibes as well as a wee bit of nagging regarding Andy's latest golf goof. After a few follow ups, they answer listener questions about procrastinating, doggy jealousy red flags, changes that come with baby, and lastly, that age-old important question: To Rabbi or not to Rabbi? Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth dive into the ever interesting hot debate topic of whether an omelette is the way to go or is a scramble to ultimate egg dish?! They also discuss listener questions about what to do when a long time friendship sours, whether or not to take his last name, how to discuss questionable parenting with a sibling, how to approach the sensitive subject of lack of sexual enthusiasm in marriage, and offffff course: WOMEN & ORGASMS! Enjoy!

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E and A read through what might be the funniest 30 day marriage challenge of all time, before launching into a discussion about light things like religion and creepiness. Then they discuss listener questions about comedy writing, differences in philosophies between spouses, bed time conundrums and how to cope when your Mom is suddenly racist. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss their recent podcast snafu - do not leave notes with bank tellers! Elizabeth also discusses what kept her awake with anxiety last night before answering listener questions about depression, splitting chores, the "dreaded" first year of marriage and a particularly entertaining email regarding concerns about having a baby. Enjoy!

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Andy and Elizabeth ponder many of life's biggest questions regarding blood and farts before listening to the first ever voicemail follow-up and answering listener questions about new moms in the workplace, how much conflict in a relationship is too much, how to get some depression meds, whether it's kosher to ask someone out while they're working, and how to get past some early relationship bumps with communication! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy check in during a lovely lazy weekend before answering listener questions  - topics include what to call one's mate, confessions of a cheater, what to do in the Lou (St. Louis!) and when it's time to get a new cat. Also discussed is what to do when your sister marries evil itself, and an extremely urgent question from a highschool laimewed about... (wait for it)... PROM! Enjoy!

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The Santa Ana's are blowing through Silverlake, causing some weird emotional issues to spring up for Elizabeth while Andy stays cool as a cucumber. They also discuss listener question about getting over a potential con-girlfriend-type, when's the right time to think about engagement, establishing boundaries in friendships, and in the words of the great One Republic's Ryan Tedder: Is it too late to apologize? (is it ever?) Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy are nursing their hangovers after a birthday/wedding weekend, so naturally they attack some light subjects such as prostitution, mental illness, family boundaries, and some good ole fashioned should-I-ask-her-out scenarios for good measure. Enjoy!

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In Andy's pre-birthday episode, E and A discuss listener questions and feedback as well as dive into the controversial email Andy received from his friend proclaiming that getting kicked in the nuts is definitely more painful than childbirth?! Don't forget to tweet at Andy on Friday April 12th for his birthday (@DrRosenRosen) and Enjoy!

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Today is Ruby's birthday so Andy and Elizabeth discuss the festivities as well as answer listener questions about dating as a teen, whether or not it's necessary to police our fantasies and if threesomes are good... or great! (to quote a writer - inner :) Enjoy!

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E and A revisit some of last night's pillow talk as well as answer a listener voicemail about whether to divorce or not after infidelity and how to let your friends help you in the game of love! Enjoy!

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It's Easter Y'all, so Elizabeth is juuuust a bit tipsy as she and Andy discuss social endeavors as well as answer listener questions about getting along with the boyfriend's family, and staying in a relationship with an ex girlfriend. Also, CAT TALK!! Enjoy!

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In this landmark 50TH!! episode E and A discuss Andy's cleaning lady snafu as well as do follow ups to Sexpectations. Then they answer listener questions about falling in love with your best friend and how to deal with a difficult mother. Thanks Laimeweds for making the last 50 episodes so much fun! Enjoy!

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E and A discuss the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse according to an article on lifehacker.com as well as dive into Elizabeth's all time favorite listener question about panty stealing, as well as other questions about STD's and how to spice up a lacking sex drive. Enjoy!

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E and A talk through some social anxiety as well as answer a bunch of listener questions addressing sexpectations, boundaries with friends, pre-emptive in-law censorship and whether or not Elizabeth feels more liberty to swear since her parents are dead! Enjoy!

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Finally! Andy reveals his "number" to a surprised Elizabeth and they answer listener questions about vacations, how to break into entertainment and oh yeah, to go or not to go... to PROM! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy reboot today with a little lesson in gratitude as well as answer listener questions about difficult roommates, whether or not to rekindle old flames as friends and financial infidelity. Enjoy!

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Elizabeth and Andy discuss trials and errors (or what E calls "failures") and also answer listener questions about difficult in-laws, trying to get pregnant and professional existential criseses! Enjoy!

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Elizabeth has a bit of a life breakdown today but is able to work through it (sort of) also, listener questions about BJ's, taking a new career path and a-sexuality are addressed. ENJOY!

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Elizabeth and Andy follow up on the last episodes teaser regarding the taste of... well... spunk. Also, they discuss recent fertility tests as well as answer listener questions about an iphone addicted father, differences in gift giving, whether to give a guy a second chance, and to maxim or not to maxim when there are kiddos around. Enjoy!

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